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Choose To Be Podcast with Alana Gordon & Amie Woolsey
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MFTI, CCPS, CSAT Candidate,
Betrayal Trauma Coach
Certified Betrayal Trauma & Divorce Coach, CPC, ELI-MP, APSATS Trainee
Additional Podcasts & webinars
What Healthy Empathy Looks Like Through Betrayal
Empathy is so complex when we’re talking to women in betrayal trauma.
As we hone in on one area for the sake of starting somewhere, we encourage you to discern for yourself how you’re doing in these different areas. Ultimately, we hope to guide you towards embracing empathy in a way that’s healthy for you.
Creating Safety After Trauma
Whether you’re in a romantic relationship or not, learning to create psychological safety for yourself after trauma is a huge principle of healing.
Many of us don’t even know that we’re in charge of our own safety, and since we didn’t have it in place before the betrayal happened, our next best option is to put it in place now.
Navigating Betrayal Trauma with Tony Overbay
In conversation with Tony, Luke and Alana share vulnerable insights from behind-the-scenes in their marriage – including their history with betrayal trauma and their subsequent healing journey.
Step One In Healing From Betrayal Trauma
Just as we’d tend to a scrape or a wound on our physical body, we have to pay attention to the wounding of our emotional body. We’re so quick to judge our mental or emotional pain, push it down, tell ourselves to suck it up and walk it off.
But if we had a cut or scrape that was bleeding, we wouldn’t do that. We’d open up our first aid kit and use those tools to help heal ourselves. Self care is no different. It’s an addition to your tool kit, particularly in healing from betrayal trauma.
Bonus Episode: Healthy Attachments with Dating Expert Loni Harmon
Clearly we were meant to cross paths with dating expert Loni Harmon, because we share passions about very similar things. We love helping women and men who are trying to navigate dating and really date healthy. And when you’re setting your priorities in a healthy relationship, one of the first things you want to consider is what we’re discussing today: healthy attachment.
Trauma Bonding Part 2 and Overfunctioning
As a continuation of our discussion on trauma bonding from last week, we’re bringing a second topic into the mix: overfunctioning. Overfunctioning in relationships is a pattern where one person tends to take on all the thoughts, feelings, and responsibilities for both people in the relationship. It’s a way of establishing a sense of control – a common result in cases of trauma bonding where the balance of control is disproportionate.