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Betrayal Trauma

Are You Self-Rejecting?

When someone betrays your trust, the pain goes deep. During this difficult time, we often find ourselves turning against our own selves. Negative thoughts start

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Hyper-vigilance Explained

Hyper-vigilance after betrayal refers to a state of heightened alertness and sensitivity to potential threats or signs of harm specifically in the context of experiencing betrayal. It is a response to the emotional trauma and loss of trust that comes from being betrayed by someone who was expected to be loyal or trustworthy. It is a common response to betrayal trauma following a disclosure. 

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What Healthy Empathy Looks Like Through Betrayal

Empathy is so complex when we’re talking to women in betrayal trauma.
As we hone in on one area for the sake of starting somewhere, we encourage you to discern for yourself how you’re doing in these different areas. Ultimately, we hope to guide you towards embracing empathy in a way that’s healthy for you.

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Creating Safety After Trauma

Whether you’re in a romantic relationship or not, learning to create psychological safety for yourself after trauma is a huge principle of healing.

Many of us don’t even know that we’re in charge of our own safety, and since we didn’t have it in place before the betrayal happened, our next best option is to put it in place now.

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Step One In Healing From Betrayal Trauma

Just as we’d tend to a scrape or a wound on our physical body, we have to pay attention to the wounding of our emotional body. We’re so quick to judge our mental or emotional pain, push it down, tell ourselves to suck it up and walk it off.

But if we had a cut or scrape that was bleeding, we wouldn’t do that. We’d open up our first aid kit and use those tools to help heal ourselves. Self care is no different. It’s an addition to your tool kit, particularly in healing from betrayal trauma.

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Bonus Episode Healthy Attachments with Dating Expert Loni Harmon
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Bonus Episode: Healthy Attachments with Dating Expert Loni Harmon

Clearly we were meant to cross paths with dating expert Loni Harmon, because we share passions about very similar things. We love helping women and men who are trying to navigate dating and really date healthy. And when you’re setting your priorities in a healthy relationship, one of the first things you want to consider is what we’re discussing today: healthy attachment.

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Trauma Bonding Part 2 and Overfunctioning

As a continuation of our discussion on trauma bonding from last week, we’re bringing a second topic into the mix: overfunctioning. Overfunctioning in relationships is a pattern where one person tends to take on all the thoughts, feelings, and responsibilities for both people in the relationship. It’s a way of establishing a sense of control – a common result in cases of trauma bonding where the balance of control is disproportionate.

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Trauma Bonding

We’re going to tackle a hard topic for our 100th episode today: trauma bonding. Many women don’t realize they’re either in trauma bonds themselves or know someone who is. It’s a lot more prevalent than most of us expect. Let’s get some clarity around the term ‘trauma bonding’ and what it means, so we can better understand our relationships and experiences.

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Loving Your Body After Betrayal Trauma

When you’ve been betrayed by your spouse, where it affects the highest level of intimacy, and hurts you where you’re most vulnerable, it can often be extremely traumatic and where the body is concerned. And it’s totally understandable.

Loving your body after betrayal trauma may sound impossible. But it can absolutely happen for you.

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